I think you may have hit on the thing that bugs me about el presidente.

To geminigirl: I don't even know what to say to you, fortunately i've never been in that situation, the closest I've gotten is the OKC bombing when i spent a good deal of time mentally going through everyone i knew making sure none of them were there. But in the end i was lucky, I didn't know anyone. I am so glad your father made it through safely.