It's not perfect, but we do love each other. And we take time to take care of ourselves and that makes us better able to take care of each other. But you're right-we need to care for our relationship like any other living, breathing creature. I've said in the past that Widget and Gizmo (two of our cats) were our wedding present to each other-we adopted them six days after we got married, but they're a living, breathing, meowing reminder of our relationship, and how it needs to be cared for.