Your daughter comes first. If continuing to pump makes you a worse parent and stifles your relationship, you stop pumping. You may want to explain that to the volunteer, but that is secondary.
Also, you may know that I have ten nieces and nephews, and that my father has a girlfriend who has two children. I mentioned your plight in conversation and my sister-in-law and my not-stepmom both piped up: 1) They knew how you felt since they had been there, the sense of failure (not-stepmom felt extra bad, like you, because she had had multiple miscarriages so she felt a total failure at this mother thing) 2) Bottle fed kids actually live and thrive -- give yourself a break.
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Also, you may know that I have ten nieces and nephews, and that my father has a girlfriend who has two children. I mentioned your plight in conversation and my sister-in-law and my not-stepmom both piped up: 1) They knew how you felt since they had been there, the sense of failure (not-stepmom felt extra bad, like you, because she had had multiple miscarriages so she felt a total failure at this mother thing) 2) Bottle fed kids actually live and thrive -- give yourself a break.