I don't believe so. It could be a function of my being less active in the public scene these days, but even when I attended a lot of parties and participated in mailing lists and munches, I never felt a sense of "community" simply because I was surrounded by kinky people.

Then again, I can be fairly prudish and shy about my sexual proclivities and am less likely to define myself by anything sexual. I'm a pervert, yes, but I'm also a domestic goddess, a shopaholic, a SCAdian, a Southern Belle, a Delta Gamma, a pet-lover, yadda yadda yadda.