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In less thrilling news, I forgot how long my hair really was, until I braided it tonight. It's longer than I think it is, at least when I braid it.

And my appetite is on vacation. If you see it, would you send it home? I realized some time after nine today that I'd had a cup of tea, some water and my vitamins today. I tried to eat, but it just wasn't happening. Might try some soup.

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I would like to mention that being at a wedding where I had no idea what was going on is different that "celebrating Christ". If you know what I'm sayin', yo.

Are you sure that not everyone feels the need to celebrate Christ? Even those Jewish people?

(I'm thinking of making a more firm stand on the wedding program issue with Mom than I have before...it's just not right to leave people clueless, but I wanted some opinions first.)

EVERYONE loves Christ. Even those pagan folk, dontcha know.

Aside from it beign your wedding, I think wedding programs are cool. It's something to keep, too. I don't have them organized but I've never thrown out any of the programs/invites over the years, and I'm not all that unusual in that regard.

The last wedding I went to incorporated Jewish, Pagan, Hawaiian, and Christian traditions. The program really made the difference between befuddling and beautiful.

What was her opinion on wedding programs?

We had a full Catholic mass, and only 30% of them were Catholic-- but even more hilarious, the only three practicing Catholics in the entire event were B, B's mom, and I. LOL.

In our programs, it is fairly detailed, but it doesn't provide instructions (i.e. no "stand, sit, kneel" bits) but it does give you a run-down of what the Chinese "double happiness" symbol means, and step-by-step index of what occurs, along with the full readings and songs to sing.

Oh sorry-- forgot to include my point of it all. ANyhow, after the ceremony, people ran up to me at the reception or outside the church to say how much they loved the programs because they felt they could put their finger on the program and know where they were (much like attending a Broadway show and having the playbill to know which act or song they are singing). It was a hit.

Mom's take on it is "not necessary." My feeling is that Cayne's family isn't Jewish, and I've got many wonderful friends who are less than cluefull about Jewish stuff, and it would be nice for them to have a clue about what's going on, and what the symbolism is.

mangosteen's wife's family isn't Jewish, and he's going to share a copy of his wedding program with me, and I'd like to have that to show to Mom to explain what I mean. If you have a copy of yours that you would feel okay sharing, that would be great-more examples for her are better.

what time? I may be at Faire as there's a big out of town contingent coming for closing weekend.

Dinner time-ish. Depends on the size of the group and where people are travelling from.

I think that if you are expecting a lot of people from outside your tradition, it is a courteous gesture to have a programme that explains the importance or relevance of particular parts of the ceremony. That way the guests know which parts have religious significance so can behave appropriately during those times, and then relax and enjoy the parts that are "merely" for personal significance, if you see what I mean.

What you should NOT do in any circumstances is have an announcer there for the hard of thinking. Richard & I once went to a handfasting that was loosely pagan but for some reason "interpreted" by a woman from the Humanist society, who told us in patronising detail the stuff that was printed in the programme, and tried to force her beliefs on us, e.g."Many people who do not believe in God like to do [fitb]." It was utterly, utterly cringe-worthy.

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