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geminigirl) wrote2005-02-15 01:47 pm
geminigirl) wrote2005-02-15 01:47 pm
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When I see posts on the wedding planning communities and boards I frequent that start out with "am I being unreasonable here," my usual feeling is yes, you are. And I was warned about having Bridezilla moments, and I've probably had a few, but I'm not sure that this counts as one...maybe it does. Mostly this is just a vent, but if you do decide to read it, be aware that I'd like your opinion on whether or not I'm being unreasonable, and be aware that it's regarding the wedding, and the bridesmaids' dresses, which are not some hideous fuschia flapper thing or anything like that. You can ask ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
aquariumgirl here for the picture, though the color I chose is the victorian lilac.
My sister is indeed, really important to me. Don't get me wrong here.
She's got a good job, in NYC, an apartment, etc. She does travel a lot-her job frequently has her in Canada , all over the place. In a few weeks she's going from Chicago (where her boyfriend lives) to Vancouver, to Toronto, to Halifax and then back home. A lot of travel. I understand that.
So, we're about to go and order bridesmaids dresses for the wedding. There are four people in the bridal party...my sister,aquariumgirl, an LJ-less friend, and zedrikcayne's sister. Everyone except my sister is travelling a significant distance to come to the wedding, and everyone but my sister is a stay at home mom.
So there are four places in Manhattan that carry this silly bridesmaids dress. Two are close to my sister's home, and two are not. I called the first two, based on the numbers listed on the manufacturer's website. Neither one was correct. I called the third. (For those of you familiar with Manhattan, my sister lives on the Lower East Side, works on Third Ave in Midtown, and the third bridal place was on the West side between 8th and 9th.) The third offered me the three dresses that would be effectively "mail ordered" (they get the measurements from the bridesmaids, and mail order the dress, and then ship it) at a very good price-$50 less than most other places, which means $50 less than what it would cost my sister in the store. Seems like a good idea, right?
Not if you're my sister. Apparently it's too inconvenient to travel to the west side to deal with this dress-a total of four times, and no more, probably.
I did suggest that we "mail order" her dress and let her get it altered anywhere she likes-close to home or work. The dresses do need to be ordred together to make sure they're the same dye lot.
Am I totally evil for wanting to save everyone else some money? It's possible my sister won't even have to pay for her own dress...my Mom will probably offer to pay for it. Everyone else has much more in travel time and costs for the wedding.
My sister frustrates me like this regularly. It's as if she sees only herself in many ways, and doesn't consider others. But tell me, is it totally wrong of me to feel like she can handle the slight inconveniece?
aquariumgirl here for the picture, though the color I chose is the victorian lilac.My sister is indeed, really important to me. Don't get me wrong here.
She's got a good job, in NYC, an apartment, etc. She does travel a lot-her job frequently has her in Canada , all over the place. In a few weeks she's going from Chicago (where her boyfriend lives) to Vancouver, to Toronto, to Halifax and then back home. A lot of travel. I understand that.
So, we're about to go and order bridesmaids dresses for the wedding. There are four people in the bridal party...my sister,
aquariumgirl, an LJ-less friend, and zedrikcayne's sister. Everyone except my sister is travelling a significant distance to come to the wedding, and everyone but my sister is a stay at home mom.So there are four places in Manhattan that carry this silly bridesmaids dress. Two are close to my sister's home, and two are not. I called the first two, based on the numbers listed on the manufacturer's website. Neither one was correct. I called the third. (For those of you familiar with Manhattan, my sister lives on the Lower East Side, works on Third Ave in Midtown, and the third bridal place was on the West side between 8th and 9th.) The third offered me the three dresses that would be effectively "mail ordered" (they get the measurements from the bridesmaids, and mail order the dress, and then ship it) at a very good price-$50 less than most other places, which means $50 less than what it would cost my sister in the store. Seems like a good idea, right?
Not if you're my sister. Apparently it's too inconvenient to travel to the west side to deal with this dress-a total of four times, and no more, probably.
I did suggest that we "mail order" her dress and let her get it altered anywhere she likes-close to home or work. The dresses do need to be ordred together to make sure they're the same dye lot.
Am I totally evil for wanting to save everyone else some money? It's possible my sister won't even have to pay for her own dress...my Mom will probably offer to pay for it. Everyone else has much more in travel time and costs for the wedding.
My sister frustrates me like this regularly. It's as if she sees only herself in many ways, and doesn't consider others. But tell me, is it totally wrong of me to feel like she can handle the slight inconveniece?