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You know those moments when you know you're doing your best but it never feels like that's good enough.

Yeah, that...

*hugs*

You are. You are good enough.

The first few weeks just really, really suck.

Can I bend your ear about a related topic, if you're feeling okay with it and you have the time? I'll totally understand "no" for an answer.

Yes, absolutely. rivka5@verizon.net .

...and if you meant, literally, my ear, drop me a note and I'll send you my phone numbers.

It will be ok. Getting through the first several weeks can be tough. There's a huge learning curve, for everyone.

It was so hard. I was exhausted. I was petrified. My baby didn't sleep unless I held her, and even then only for short periods. I couldn't sleep when I was holding her. She nursed constantly, and I was blistered and bloody and would have given anything for her to take a pacifier for the love of god please take a pacifier and ... *sigh* I'm trying to say no matter what you're feeling, no matter what you're going through, you're not alone. Many of us have been in similar situations, and we're pulling for you. If you want to scream or rant or cry or fret or thrill or laugh or whatever, it's ok. You'll make it through, and find that satisfaction on the other side that you've done your damnedest for your child, and that it really is all just fine.

Such an adventure.

Yes. Exactly.

*hugs*

Welcome to motherhood.

Hang in there.

It's terrible at first, and even when it physically gets better, the emotional shock of the huge change takes a long time to process. People don't acknowledge that. It's just terrible at first. Do you know Jodi (lj user="leatherfish">? She is another mama who gets it. It helps to talk about it to people who understand and won't judge you or act like you are ungrateful to be overwhelmed and kind of miserable sometimes with a new baby.

Not that I am a parent, but I remember one of my coworkers and his wife being so tired and overwhelmed they called their child "the little bastard" for about 9 months.

Hang in there. *hugs*

I'm positive that you're doing fine. I'm also positive that you're being incredibly overwhelmed. But, you know, that's to be expected in virtually any new job situation. And you've just signed up for the most complicated job on earth.

So. Buck up. :)

Just remember...

breathe...

Remind yourself.

You're strong and will get through it, and just think you have the greatest gift in the world and that gift has only begun to teach you the true meaning of patience and understanding.

Just remember ... breathe.... you will get through this

It's called motherhood

You are better than "good enough," especially if this is about what I think it's about.

BTW, sorry we got disconnected yesterday. I lost my Internet connection and only just got it back! I'll be logging into IM shortly if you want/need to talk. You can always email, too.

XOs!

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