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My Mother Says...
May. 3rd, 2008 02:48 pmI don't need my mother's approval, but it's nice.
Not long before I gave birth to Naomi, my Mom had called me and said she was proud of me. I never quite got out of her exactly what she meant, but it had something to do with the calm way I handled pregnancy...with a minimum of complaining and even less freaking out, and I think also, at least when I was spending time with them (which I did three times over the course of the pregnancy...once at about 15 weeks, once at about 20 weeks and once at 39 weeks) being really clear about what I did need-I need to go home, I need to sit down I need to get something to eat, rather than just ignoring my needs and doing what Mom wanted.
But now I am (or we are, really) the one responsible for Naomi, and Cayne and I need to make the choices and decisions that guide her life and well being. And my Mom enjoys the updates about the baby...I think she's still not entirely adjusted into the idea of our being parents, but I think also after all the issues we had with Naomi right at birth in the hospital, it gives her some reassurance that everything really and truly is okay. So I called Mom yesterday after the pediatrician visit, and mentioned that the next visit, at two months was when vaccinations started but that we were feeling uncertain about how to handle that. I was surprised when my mother approves of our concern with the number of vaccinations and how they're given. My mother's comment, aside from expressing her approval? "You're good at research. Take your time." I told her what I'd discussed about the Sears vaccination schedule with someone else (he can speak up if he wants) and what we were thinking about doing. And she seems to support that decision as well thought out.
And it's not just the vaccinations...it's the way we've gone about dealing with the breastfeeding thing. She thinks its a bit weird, mostly cause she doesn't quite understand how it works (I think it will make more sense when she sees it.) But I explained why we're choosing to do it, and why it's so important to me to breastfeed, even if it's only part of what she gets. And she's supportive. She approves of my decision to take domperidone, and the work I'm doing to build supply.
It's not essential to have my mother's approval. We'll still make the decisions we feel are best because that's part of our task as parents. But I'll admit, it is kind of nice.
Not long before I gave birth to Naomi, my Mom had called me and said she was proud of me. I never quite got out of her exactly what she meant, but it had something to do with the calm way I handled pregnancy...with a minimum of complaining and even less freaking out, and I think also, at least when I was spending time with them (which I did three times over the course of the pregnancy...once at about 15 weeks, once at about 20 weeks and once at 39 weeks) being really clear about what I did need-I need to go home, I need to sit down I need to get something to eat, rather than just ignoring my needs and doing what Mom wanted.
But now I am (or we are, really) the one responsible for Naomi, and Cayne and I need to make the choices and decisions that guide her life and well being. And my Mom enjoys the updates about the baby...I think she's still not entirely adjusted into the idea of our being parents, but I think also after all the issues we had with Naomi right at birth in the hospital, it gives her some reassurance that everything really and truly is okay. So I called Mom yesterday after the pediatrician visit, and mentioned that the next visit, at two months was when vaccinations started but that we were feeling uncertain about how to handle that. I was surprised when my mother approves of our concern with the number of vaccinations and how they're given. My mother's comment, aside from expressing her approval? "You're good at research. Take your time." I told her what I'd discussed about the Sears vaccination schedule with someone else (he can speak up if he wants) and what we were thinking about doing. And she seems to support that decision as well thought out.
And it's not just the vaccinations...it's the way we've gone about dealing with the breastfeeding thing. She thinks its a bit weird, mostly cause she doesn't quite understand how it works (I think it will make more sense when she sees it.) But I explained why we're choosing to do it, and why it's so important to me to breastfeed, even if it's only part of what she gets. And she's supportive. She approves of my decision to take domperidone, and the work I'm doing to build supply.
It's not essential to have my mother's approval. We'll still make the decisions we feel are best because that's part of our task as parents. But I'll admit, it is kind of nice.
