geminigirl: (Mass Marriage)
It makes me sad that while Connecticut legalized same sex marriage today, Florida, where I live is trying to ban it this year.
geminigirl: (Gay Dog)
I've used many public restrooms in my life, and in fact, sat on many public restroom toilets. In all my experience with public restroom toilets, I can't recall any time when my foot has bumped the foot of the person in the stall next to me, accidentally or on purpose.
geminigirl: (indecent exposure)
Larry King did a program on transgender people not long ago-we've watched maybe half of it, and it's not bad. It's on our DVR-if anyone on my f'list hasn't seen it, but would like it, let me know and I'll burn it to a DVD for you.
geminigirl: (Yip Yip)
The name of a local salon? "Mullet Salon and Spa" (for locals, it's on Mills a little north of Colonial.)

So I'm contemplating volunteering at the Gay and Lesbian Community Center-I was over there tonight, and I'm not sure it's a good fit; it seems that about all they have that they can have me doing, is answering phones. I'll give Planned Parenthood a look and see if they have things that actually take advantage of my skills and experience. One thing I've thought about, and that I hate to think that I've had to think about it, is whether or not my involvement with that organization might affect our ability to adopt a child in the future if we wanted to. I hate that I've had to think about that. (Florida is pretty firm in their anti-gay-parent stance. I worry already that being pretty much out and queer will already be a big negative.)

Okay, so I've written about being queer lately. I know there are a bunch of new readers (I noticed it on my info page the other day.) If you feel like it, let me know how you got here (I like to know that.) And for everyone, let me know if you've got questions, or are unclear on something, from what color my hair is (auburn) to where I live (near Orlando Florida) to whom I'm dating (I'm involved with [ profile] aquariumgirl and I'm married, legally, to [ profile] zedrikcayne,) to my favorite color (green) to all sorts of stuff in between, let me know, and I'll try and answer you.

Good grief

Mar. 5th, 2007 12:31 am
geminigirl: (Just a Phase)
I'm in the middle of writing an answer about pre-natal vitamins, and how they can help prevent birth defects, and my brain is elsewhere, because it seems that instead of "birth" the rest of what comes out of my fingers following the letters "bi" is "sexual" which leavs me with the phrase "bisexual defects."

Yeah, whatever.
geminigirl: (Rubber Duckie Two Daddies)
And I am looking at this and going, OMG, 'faggot' is the new 'nigger'! When the hell did that happen in popular culture, when was the critical mass accumulated to elevate faggot to that status? [ profile] fj, on the TR Knight/Isaiah Washington issue, and the Ellen interview.

I have the interview on my TiVo at the moment if anyone hasn't seen it and wants to, and can't find it. (Though if I send it to you, I'm going to send it along with the phone call to Gladys that Ellen made.)
geminigirl: (Two Daddies)
I regularly watch the TV program "Brothers and Sisters" on ABC (in the US-I don't know what networks it's carried on elsewhere if at all.) And I quite enjoy the program-each of the characters enjoys his or her own sort of dysfunction, and the gay character seems no more or less dysfunctional than anyone else in his family. This afternoon, I had time to watch the episode that aired on Sunday evening.

The gay character (Kevin) meets a man at the gym, who seems to be interested in him. They have a few interactions, and Kevin seems unable to determine whether or not the object of his affection is gay or not. One of his sisters suggests that he might be bisexual, to which Kevin replies "No one is bisexual. Have you ever met a 70 year old bisexual? That's why the phrase is 'Bi now, gay later. Everyone chooses at some point." (Note: That may not be a precise quote, but it's as accurate as I can recall at the moment, and the sentiment is all there.)

The show continues, and Kevin becomes intimate with the character, after finding out he has a girlfriend-in fact the character says something to the effect of "She doesn't mind. I've seen her make out with tons of girls."

It's an infrequent thing to find bisexuality addressed on TV...and I'm frustrated by the negative stereotypes that are continually demonstrated for the mainstream TV audience.

(I've left a comment on the Writer's Blog which may or may not appear-the comments are moderated. Do be prepared, if you read the blog, that there are some people who object to the fact that the episode showed two men kissing in the first place. I'll try and update this post and let you know if my comment appears at all. ETA-the comment does now appear in the writer's blog.)

This entry crossposted to my journal and [ profile] bisexual Apologies if you see it twice.
geminigirl: (Rainbow flag)
Cute cartoon-Batman, Superman, and some other fun stuff. Link courtesy of [ profile] zedrikcayne.

And, our local cable provider has apparently added Logo (the lgbt tv channel) to our lineup. Nice. I'll watch Margaret Cho tomorrow night, for sure.
geminigirl: (Mike Holmes-Holmes on Holmes)
Mary Cheney, Pregnant

AP article behind the cut )

Very little attention has been paid to the fact that Dick Cheney's other daughter is also pregnant. Why? Because Mary Cheney is gay? Is that really a good reason to make a big deal out of it? More important, as far as I'm concerned, is that Mary Cheney and her partner of fifteen years live in a state where that partner will not be permitted any legal rights to the child that she helps raise. Suppose, fifteen years from now, a tragic accident takes the life of Mary Cheney (should have known better than to go hunting with Dad or something)-then what?

Assorted thing number 2: I didn't believe it when Conan O'Brien mentioned it on his show, but they made it happen. (Reasonably work safe, by the way. Unless your work doesn't like furry manatees)

Assorted thing number 3:
"Avenue Jew"-a piece performed by the casts of the musicals Avenue Q and Fiddler on the Roof, spoofing both. [ profile] melebeth was kind enough to provide a link to the script, too.

geminigirl: (Just a Phase)
"A lot of people, when they talk about gay culture they have this idea that we all live in this sort of a big pink house, and that we share the same political and social and sexual views which is clearly not the case. I've sat at dinner tables with right wing homosexuals, and to me that's like being a vegeterian butcher."

Core Dump

Oct. 12th, 2006 03:20 am
geminigirl: (N'est Pas Un Blog)
I sort of missed National Coming Out Day. I'm queer. It's not very exciting. What's your secret?

I think I have PMS. Which, while it's irritating, is also making me very happy. Salty food cravings, chocolate cravings, serious modiness and extra sweatiness. I also think I ovulated this month. I seem to have had all the right symptoms, including a temperature spike, but I admit, I've been less consistent about taking my temperature in the morning than I have in previous cycles. Most of itis due to not sleeping well -when I don't get a three hour block of sleep, I can't get an accurate temperature, and sometimes, the three hour block involves getting up between five and six in the morning to pee, and that is completely off from when my usual temperature taking time is. Some of it is just not stressing over it. As much as I would like to jump right back in to trying to have a baby, restraint is a good thing here. Making sure the meds are working, figuring out how I feel on the meds, that's important. A few more weeks isn't unreasonable.

The meds-I feel good, I had fewer side effects adjusting than I expected, but I'm just not hungry a lot of the time, and it's hard to eat just to take the meds. It doesn't have to be a lot, but it does have to be the right combination of protein/carbs in order to not get sick, and in order to not wake up feeling like I'll faint. I made that error once, fortunately on a weekend when Cayne was here, but I made a food mistake, went and took a nap, and woke up feeling not right, and hollered for Cayne to bring me juice. After which I felt a lot better. It was a scary moment though to wake up disoriented and dizzy like that. I find it very hard to get four doses in a day, but I'm doing the best I can.

Cayne's CPAP arrived on Monday. He's spending a few more nights on the futon, to get settled with it. The first night he used it, I kept getting up to check on him. The silence is spooky after two years of snoring. The bed will also probably be very warm with another body in it, too.

I am questioning my involvement in something. I'm not sure it's healthy, and sometimes I find it downright energy sucking.

[ profile] aquariumgirl arrives Friday night for the weekend. This is very exciting. It's our first baby-free visit in two years. :) We'll spend some time at Disneyworld/Epcot (which is extra cool cause it's the Food and Wine festival) and hang out and enjoy our visit. It's likely to be the last baby free visit for quite a while, again. :) (Baby 2 is due in January, in case I haven't mentioned that.)

I'm being asked to participate in something I have strong objections to. I haven't decided how to respond. I haven't decided if the strength of my objections is magnified by the emotional impact PMS tends to have on me, or if they really are that strong, nor have I decided exactly how to respond.

I've had this non-productive cough that won't go away. It probably doesn't help that I'm not taking any asthma meds (and have felt fine up until recently.) It doesn't feel like bronchitis, but Cayne suggested that it might be. I may have to go get it checked out if it doesn't go away soon.

Stressing over money and car stuff. We've been putting off replacing Cayne's car, but it's coming closer and closer to time. Today we replaced the heater core, which cost us quite a bit-more than I'd have wanted to put into the car at this point. We're trying to put off car buying for at least six more months-a year would be better, because we'd be able to find a 2007 something, off a lease. Mom suggested perhaps talking to their car guy, Mike, who might be able to find us what we're looking for (ideally, a small station wagon type vehicle, if not, something larger than what we've got now) and/or cut us a deal on whatever we do buy. That would involve driving back from up there-potentially fun and with time to visit with friends along the way.

New cell phones are on the high priority list of things to do; Cingular is dropping analog coverage and going to all GSM, which means Cayne is having huge gaps in where he has signal. We'll drop Cingular and go all Verizon with a family plan of some sort before the end of this month-Verizon has a plan that covers us in Canada, and Cingular didn't when I last checked. When we get them, I'll pass along new contact info.

It's almost half past three. I should go to bed, in order to wake up and take my temperature soon. I just can't seem to shut my brain off.
geminigirl: (Just a Phase)
This is the meme that's going around in LJ circles lately...

"'Why is it that, as a culture, we are more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands?'- Ernest Gaines

We would like to know who really believes in gay rights* on LiveJournal. There is no bribe of a miracle or anything like that. If you truly believe in gay rights*, then repost this and title the post as "Gay Rights". If you don't believe in gay rights*, then just ignore this. Thanks. "

(Yes I posted it, mostly so I can write what follows with context for people who haven't seen it yet.)

I'm sure there's no question among readers of this journal what my feelings are on gay rights. I won't sit here and write about my feelings on guns.

I will say that I'd rather see two men holding hands than holding guns. I will say that whether or not someone chooses to post this says nothing about where that person stands on the issue of gay rights, civil rights or human rights in general. I will say that the "you're with us or against us" rhetoric is a lot like the language that came from the Bush administration about the "War on Terror" which many people have mentioned strong, negative feelings about.

In summary, if you are curious about I feel about an issue, ask. If I feel strongly about an issue, I might post about it. I might not. But I'm not likely to resort to memes to express my feelings.
geminigirl: (Bi Pride)
As I was cutting up some chicken to go in a stir fry for Cayne's lunch, I had Oprah on the TV. She's interviewing author Terry McMillian (of the semi-autobiographical How Stella Got her Groove Back and Waiting to Exhale and others) and her ex-husband, Johnathan Plummer, who revealed to Terry that he was gay.

During the early part of the program, Oprah was discussing with Terry McMillan how Johnathan revealed his sexual orientation to Oprah, and how, at the time he revealed to her that he is gay he also said that he'd never been intimate with a man. Terry McMillian responded with, "That's like saying you're an alcoholic without ever having had a drink."

It's a frequent refrain, "How can you know you're lesbian/gay/bisexual if you've never had sex with a MOTAS1?

So, how did you know about your own, lesbian, bisexual, straight, whatever label you choose to apply? Before or after you started having sex? Did you ever question it? How do you feel about what Terry McMillian said to Johnathan-do you think people can know before they try it?

(Anon posting on, IP logging off, so go ahead an answer anonymously if you like-also, feel free to link to this post and encourage other people to answer, and [ profile] mactavish I can re-post it Friday to [ profile] bisexual as a QOTW if you like.)

1. Member Of The Appropriate Sex
geminigirl: (Freedom Rings)
Best response to comments about how allowing same sex couples to marry would lead to things like marriage between a man and his dog:

"Only a demented crackpot would think that."

I have no idea who said it, I over heard it on the 11 PM news. But it's such a New York thing to say. And it's so true.
geminigirl: (Freedom Rings)
I'm so happy, I'm crying.

Same-Sex Couples Must Be Allowed To Marry In New York, Court Rules; Lambda Legal Says Decision Is ‘Historic, Well Reasoned and Fair’
Lambda Legal brought the case under the state Constitution, saying gay New Yorkers weren’t being treated equally under the law because they couldn’t marry

Article from Lambda Legal here. )

A link to a PDF of the actual decision is also available at


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