Cats and Romance

Beta seems to be healing. He took his medication mostly pleasantly this morning-tuna fish is appealing to him. He's been extra demanding of my attention all day, and extra cuddly. He's also been far mellower-and there's been less pestering of Oblivion taking place, which makes both of us happy, I think.

He's a pretty little boy, but every time I take him somewhere people oooh and ahhh over him, talking about how beautiful and how cute he is. He's a pretty boy for sure, but I'm not sure he's so much more beautiful than other orange tabby kitties. ALthough I think he's extra special, but I'm biased; I'm his Human.

I'm a bit distressed-the vet who did the neutering (who will not be my regular vet, mostly because they're too far away) had me fill out all kinds of paperwork. And of course, there was the "Spouse" question. Not Spouse/partner...which tweaks me. The clinic where Beta got his shots had similar paperwork and it was worded more appropriately. The place where he was neutered had a separate space for Emergency Contact, and aquariumgirl and I had talked about this a few weeks ago. She's the cat's emergency contact-I know she loves them, and I trust her to be sensible and level headed about what needs to be done. And besides, she's pretty much Beta's other Mom. She helped me pick him out and everything. But she's not my spouse, nor is she my partner.

See, I'm neither single nor am I not single. And it complicates things. Available? Yes. Without attachments? No.

So on that same front...

Something my Mom said on Valentine's Day keeps ringing in my head. She said "Don't be like Ellie, and not get married because you're afraid of what your father will think." Ellie is my cousin-she's a couple of years older than my Mom, and according to Mom, she never got married (although she did live with a man for a while) because of her father. Because everyone she brought home wasn't good enough. The thing is, Ellie is a twin-and her twin sister, Ruthie is married. So I don't quite get that. But the Ellie part isn't so much the part that sticks. It's the part about not getting married because of my father that hangs around.

If I ever did in fact find someone with whom I'd want to form that sort of relationship, I would hope that I wouldn't be hung up on my parents because of it. But they've yet to approve of anyone I've been involved with, which complicates things. And having watched family stuff before, when my half brother and half sister got married, I'm not sure I want to go through that. And I'm sort of resigned to the fact that it's inevitable...although I shouldn't think that.

I know my parents want what's best for me. I also know my mother is sometimes a better judge of character than I am, when I'm blinded by love or like or lust or whatever. But I'd like to feel like I can make good choices about my own life.

Part of me would like to find a good match, someone to have the everyday part of my life with. Part of me enjoys answering to no one but the cats.

I think maybe I'll go to bed.

A note about filters

I'm a big believer in filters. And that filters should be set up at the discretion of the writer; that is, whoever writes the post should have control over who actually gets to view it. That said, I'm throwing out a list of filters that I have, and if you have a particular desire to be included in one or more of them, you're free to let me know. I'm not promising anything, but I'd be interested in knowing what you're interested in reading.

My filters include:

Several variations of relationship related filters. These are discretionary. And this won't change.

A bdsm related filter

A filter about poly things

A filter about grad school

A filter about my relationship with my parents

You're welcome to e-mail me about filters if you don't want to reply in a comment.

Cooking Questions

Okay Jews and Kitchen Mavens alike....

I need a hamentaschen recipe.

I need a fabulous yummy hamentaschen recipe. And if you have mohn filling to go along with it, that would be really extra neat.

See, I haven't baked them in years. And aquariumgirl hasn't ever done it. So we wanna do it. And Purim is only a couple of weeks away.

So if you know how to do it, share share share share please?

Oops

On the list of filters, I left one about my parents out. If you're interested in that one too, let me know.