Another Question

[geminigirl]

(Background: one of the things mactavish and I did as moderators of bisexual is to institute a question of the week. Each week, a question that somehow relates to bisexual stuff is posted, and we collect the answers. Just a way of encouraging discussion in the community sort of thing. This one was kind of interesting, and my friends list tends to be more outspoken about their diversity as a sample than the community does, and so I'm curious about how people feel, not just a group that overwhelmingly identifies as bisexual.)

I watched an episode of Showtime's The L Word" on Sunday night, and one character said to another, "Don't bisexuals have their own team?" So here's your question...

Someteimes we hear people saying "he bats for our team" or "she plays for both teams" or something similar. Do you feel a particular association to a community defined by your sexual orientation-gay, straight, bisexual, kink, poly, furry, whatever?

Comments

[halibut.livejournal.com]

Tricky, that. I suppose it's context-dependent. In a given context I'm more likely to think "Am I comfortable here or not?" than to identify as "an xyz". When I go to Bicon I feel very very much a part of the bi community. (Even though I live on the other side of the world where there isn't a "bi community" as such, just a bunch of people, some of whom kind of cluster as friends). When I'm in a goth club I'm comfortable, even if I'm peripheral and not core community there. When I'm among fellow geeks, I enjoy myself even if I can't get as seriously tech-obsessed as most of the others.

The other day I found a personality profile result which my former shrink once did for me. It basically said I was radically independent by temperament and not very much inclined to define myself in group terms. So yes, there are communities where I feel comfortable and communities where I don't (like, interestingly enough, most gay clubs these days. But it's the yuppiedom, banality and mainstreamness of it all which squicks me, not (obviously) the sexual aspect)

That's about it for now, I guess.