I would feel betrayed, used, and lied to. I don't think that he can choose to his sexuality, but he can choose to not lie about it and to not put himself in a situation where he would have to tell his wife that he prefers men.
I agree, if he knew before he married her. It's possible that he's bi and not dealing with that (the whole bi-invisibility thing). It's possible that he didn't accept it internally - I didn't come out to myself until I was 36. I was the good Christian straight girl - I wasn't one of those weirdos.
It's amazing that these days the only part of that phrase that still applies is "good" ;-)
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Date: 2005-11-09 11:41 pm (UTC)I agree, if he knew before he married her. It's possible that he's bi and not dealing with that (the whole bi-invisibility thing). It's possible that he didn't accept it internally - I didn't come out to myself until I was 36. I was the good Christian straight girl - I wasn't one of those weirdos.
It's amazing that these days the only part of that phrase that still applies is "good" ;-)