On the marriage article... fascinating, fascinating. I have to agree with a previous poster who said it all depends on what your definition of 'marriage' is. For me, that wouldn't work at all; B and I have had a long-distance relationship for almost 2 years and cannot stand being apart, but have to for logistical and financial reasons for the time being. We visit as often as we can, but one of the differences between our relationship and the marriage described in the article is that he and I genuinely share a lot of varied interests. And more to the point, even those that we don't directly share, we enjoy each others' company so much that we're willing to try something new if it means we get to spend time together or share new experiences.
It's the "sharing" bit of our relationship that seems somewhat lacking in the marriage described in the article; that couple cares for each other, shares love for their children, but I don't personally know how a relationship can maintain any sense of interest, excitement, affection, and so on when there are literally no shared interests at all outside of the children and the family unit. They're so widely disparate in most every respect I'm amazed they've been able to make it work without being intrigued by someone else with whom they share more commonalities. But hey, to each their own; I just know it wouldn't work for me. It's not the way I'm wired.
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Date: 2007-11-04 07:23 pm (UTC)It's the "sharing" bit of our relationship that seems somewhat lacking in the marriage described in the article; that couple cares for each other, shares love for their children, but I don't personally know how a relationship can maintain any sense of interest, excitement, affection, and so on when there are literally no shared interests at all outside of the children and the family unit. They're so widely disparate in most every respect I'm amazed they've been able to make it work without being intrigued by someone else with whom they share more commonalities. But hey, to each their own; I just know it wouldn't work for me. It's not the way I'm wired.
Thanks for linking it! What an interesting read.