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Jun. 27th, 2003 04:58 pmStill torn about whether or not to let my mother be here while I'm recovering from my tonsil surgery. We're both in the same frame of mind about why it would be good or bad...basically that it would be nice to have my mother here, and chicken soup and all that, but at the same time, my mother and I sometimes get along like oil and water. And I will be in no frame of mind to deal with that should that be the case...plus there's the whole cat fur situation. (Mom is allergic to cats, in spite of the fact that eight live in their house and another two outdoors. She seems to manage okay because the cats are indoors and out, instead of being indoors all the time, and so there's apparently less cat fur.)
However, Mom offered to clean. Top to bottom. I would love for my apartment to be in the state of clean that my mother would get it to. And once it's there, it's that much easier to keep it that way. I think Mom's offer to clean is more about her wanting to be there...since I told her if she were to come she wasn't allowed to complain about the state of my apartment or the cat fur.
I know my mother would rather be here than not be here. She's a Mom. That's her way. I'm not sure I want here here...
I just need to figure out what to do with the sex toys if I do tell her to come down.
However, Mom offered to clean. Top to bottom. I would love for my apartment to be in the state of clean that my mother would get it to. And once it's there, it's that much easier to keep it that way. I think Mom's offer to clean is more about her wanting to be there...since I told her if she were to come she wasn't allowed to complain about the state of my apartment or the cat fur.
I know my mother would rather be here than not be here. She's a Mom. That's her way. I'm not sure I want here here...
I just need to figure out what to do with the sex toys if I do tell her to come down.
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Date: 2003-06-27 01:58 pm (UTC)Storage closet?
Good luck deciding!
*hugs*
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Date: 2003-06-27 02:05 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-06-27 08:38 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-06-27 02:20 pm (UTC)I can remember the day my folks arrived at my place (with key) before I came home from work. In a panic, I couldn't remember if the astro-glide (also called astro-whoops!) made it into a drawer after its last use.
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Date: 2003-06-27 03:38 pm (UTC)Before I could answer, my dad said, "Oh! You have those ropes, right?" I'm not sure what my reaction was - I'm pretty sure my head didn't fall off.
He then continues, and explains knowledgeably to my mom, "You see, you put rope through it, you attach them to your shoes and you can exercise." He mimics the motion of exercise. He turns to me, "Right?"
I murmur my assent, and quickly change the subject. :-)
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Date: 2003-06-27 03:44 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-06-27 09:00 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-06-27 10:37 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-06-27 03:18 pm (UTC)You could designate a place in your apartment (even if it's just a box under your bed) that she's not allowed to touch, and keep them all there.
When I paid a maid to clean up my apartment after I had been ill for a few months, I did that. Unfortunately, the safe spot wasn't big enough and didn't encompass enough, and she still ended up throwing away some important stuff. Still, she did a good job, and it was such a relief to just have it dealt with. If your mom can handle your apartment, and you can handle her going thru your stuff (with a hands off area, perhaps) then I think it's a great idea.
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Date: 2003-06-28 04:01 am (UTC)re mothers and sex toys
Date: 2003-06-28 04:14 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-06-29 09:02 pm (UTC)