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[geminigirl]

I had my first official wedding nightmare. We were getting ready for the wedding, and suddenly realized we'd never gotten a marriage license. I think that makes it official.

Mom has decided that this Saturday is the day she wants to go look for her dress. I am so not looking forward to this part. Mom hates shopping. And it's a great time for her to get on my case about whatever she happens to not approve of. And of course, Mom and her complete disregard for my boundaries means I'm so not looking forward to this.

Cayne seems to be recovering from his bronchitis, I've got a cold now though. Joy.

We're tossing honeymoon ideas around. Seems like Vegas is at the top of the list.

Just waiting until this is done.

Suddenly, my best bra is too big. I asked Cayne if my breasts were shrinking and he said he thought so. It's not a bad thing, but wow, do I find it weird to have my bra too big. It looks funny on me.

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[sweetmmeblue.livejournal.com]

Haveing been through this before, twice, how comfortable are you with standing up for your boundaries?

I once walked out on a wedding meeting my mother was attending with me. I just got up and walked out and told the person I'd reschedule. We got outside and my mother asked what that was all about. I explained that her utter disreguard for what I wanted, what mattered to me and everything made me unwiling to do this with her and I'd go another time by myself. She appologized and we went back in. When we went to do the flowers (the other had been the cake) I warned her in advance how I expected her to act and that went better.

Maybe taking to her in advance and letting her know you'd appreciate her acting like an adult and what you'll do if she doesn't might make the day go better.

You deserve to have your boundaries respected. This is going to be your day, not hers. (No matter what she says). Good luck sweetie.

[geminigirl]

Boundaries? My mother? The two things don't exist in her mind when it comes to me. We were shopping a few months back, and I was within moments of walking out of the store without her...the only thing that stopped me was that it was cold and I had no keys to the car. I'm fortunate that she doesn't often cross the line, but when she does, and I call her on it, she flips out.

[nmc.livejournal.com]

We were getting ready for the wedding, and suddenly realized we'd never gotten a marriage license.

Wait. I thought you were supposed to do it in that order? Big wedding, then license. Or maybe either order works. Because at the wedding I was recently a part of, they did the big (sorta) thing, and then got the license later.

[geminigirl]

The marriage license if it you've got the civil thing happening at the same time as everything else. You go, get your marriage license, the officiant marries you, signs the license and a couple of witnesses sign it and it's done. Then, they mail you your marriage certificate, later on.

(This is something I had no idea about until after I started looking in to what we needed to do to get our license and when.)