I understand this feeling

[geminigirl]

"Apparently, as a healthy, successful woman in her 30's, I don't deserve to have a baby. Maybe I'd have a fighting chance if I were gay, or a teenager, or a member of the AARP."

Kate Walsh as Addison Montgomery on Grey's Anatomy

Comments

[vvalkyri.livejournal.com]

Icon love, and hugs offered.

Mildly confused by the quote. What was going on on Grey's?

[aliki.livejournal.com]

Addison's trying to get pregnant, but found out she's out of eggs.

[mactavish.livejournal.com]

I ran into someone in a community, recently, who has three kids, just turned 20, and she's specifically not telling her babies' bio-daddies about them, so she doesn't have to share legal rights, decision-making, etc. She's the only one. And she tries to get pregnant, it's a very happy thing for her.

I just had to close her LJ and walk away, I couldn't sit there with it open. It made my brain go numb.

[jpallan.livejournal.com]

It would upset me, too. I have two daughters born before I was twenty. And that still doesn't negate the fact that children have the right to know their parents.

As for the quote . . . while I understand the harshness of trying to conceive and the feelings of alienation associated with it (I'm a former fertility patient), the amount of shit teenaged mothers get for being pregnant is insane. The amount of bias the kids of gay parents get is insane. I don't know about how people react to elderly parents. So no one else gets off easy, either.

[fj.livejournal.com]

A lot of mommies on my flist, and it makes me think just having or raising them gets you shit somehow.

[jpallan.livejournal.com]

Yes. And in an expanded definition, consuming oxygen as a member of human society gets you shit somehow.

You learn to shake it all off. Or you listen to your detractors and go mad.

In other words:

"There seemed to be several avenues open to me. I could (a) take myself seriously and end up drinking gin after the school bus left, (b) take the children seriously and end up drinking gin before the school bus left, or (c) admit to the fear and frustration and have a good time with it." - Erma Bombeck

[geminigirl]

I recall reading something similar recetly, and it just infurated me. But then, I'm very touchy about most things related to pregnancy and getting pregnant these days.

[fjordhopper.livejournal.com]

I am SO with you on this one.

[geminigirl]

I thought of you when I heard the quote. I figured you would share my feelings about it.

[fjordhopper.livejournal.com]

Totally

[geminigirl]

I'm so tired of crossing my fingers and hoping, each time the anticipated date of my period rolls around. I'm starting to call around to price Clomid though, and see who has the best price, since we decided that if we're going that route we'd pay out of pocket for it, rather than using benefits. Save that for the more expensive drugs later.

[jpallan.livejournal.com]

Clomid cost me < $30 for one cycle. This was in 1999, but still. Since there's generic clomiphene citrate, it's not too pricey.

[geminigirl]

$24 at Walgreens. Haven't called elsewhere yet, I had to refill prescriptions anyway there yesterday so I asked. It's not just about the price, it's about accepting that Clomid probably isn't going to help at this point (we're battling male factor issues on top of my own mostly treated and well controlled issues.) It's hard to not feel defeated at each step.

[tyrsalvia.livejournal.com]

Bob suggested I add you, so I did! Hi!