Of rings and things...

[geminigirl]

Cayne has apparently lost his wedding ring. He stopped at a fast food drive through on his way home, and at some point, realized that his ring was gone. It may have come off in his car. It may have come off at work. He's going to look in both places tomorrow, as well as consult with the security people to see if anyone turns one in, but I suspect it's gone.

I feel like I'm expected to be angry about it, but I'm not. I'm sad and disappointed, but not angry. It happens. He doesn't love me any less, he wasn't taking it off to cheat or mess around with someone else.

He feels awful and I wish I could make him feel better.

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[geminigirl]

I think he's lost some weight recently though he doesn't thinks so, and that could be part of it. It's possible that when he was reaching into a pocket, that he caught it on his shorts, and pulled it off without realizing it. I've yanked my engagement ring that way-his wedding band was flat cut, so it had raised edges-imagine a piece of fairly thick pipe that someone had cut into a ring.

He doesn't love me any less or anything. I'm sad and disappointed because it was the ring that we had picked out together when we went shopping before we got married, and it was special because of that. He's told me that when my fingers get too fat during pregnancy to wear my current ring, he wants to go pick out a new one for me, not for me to just order a cheap replacement from Ebay or anything. It's the symbolism-the gift from one spouse to another that makes it special. And that still matters. But being angry at him won't bring the ring back. If he wasn't upset (perhaps even more than I am) or had lost it in an act of deception, or something, I'd be angry, maybe. But he was honest and devastated about it.