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geminigirl-man with no pants at Dunkin Donuts. He comes to DD (the on in Lake Mary if you're familiar with the area, on Lake Mary Blvd,) driving a red Corvette, goes through the drive through and orders coffee, nothing else, and then drives off.
I got rid of something that was overwhelmingly negative in my life and I'm much happier for it.
I'm worried about something that my brother's therapist (a psychologist) is telling him to do, which I think are ethically irresponsible, particularly given my brother's history. I'm glad he has a therapist, I think the right one would be very beneficial to him, but I find this particular behavior appalling, and irresponsible, and in conflict with other things that my brother is trying to do.
I've developed this complex relationship with my chiropractor which certainly goes beyond the professional and delves into the personal-(she's an awesome chiropractor) and I tend to like her as a person, but some of her parenting makes me uncomfortable-I've realized that this, like everything else will always be the case and I have to accept that she's doing what she feels is the best thing for her child and her family, even if it's not the same parenting style I hope to have-every child and every family is different, and while there are some near-universal things where there's a clear "Ais better than B" answers, there are so many other things in parenting that aren't. And then there's a whole boundary thing. People tell me things, and that's okay with me. It's been that way for a long time, and I think it's partly a personality thing and partly the social work thing. Whatever, right? But there are some things that, in the context of a non-professional, therapist-patient kind of relationship that I kind of feel like the timing for disclosing was a little awkward-they're certainly things to discuss with a therapist, they're certainly things to discuss with your close and intimate friends, but I'm certainly not her therapist or counselor, and I'm not exactly a close confidante either. The telling me doesn't bother me...everyone has different comfort levels about disclosure, and that's all fine, but I'm feeling at a loss for a safe place to process the fact that I now know some of these things-things. It's the kind of stuff where if I were building a client-therapist relationship, I'd have an appropriate system in place, but I'm not, and I don't...and I'm now in the strange position of someone disclosing things that are rather personal, and not really having a good place to put it. I'd call it a boundary issue, but I'm not sure it is entirely-it's stuff that I'd certainly talk about with my close friends, and if she's feeling devoid of people to talk about this stuff with, I'm probably not a bad person to talk to. It's much harder to set limits when you're not exactly sure what the guidelines for the relationship are...do I set limits as I would with a client, or do I set limits as I would with a friend, or do I just let things grow in an organic way and see what happens. It'll all work itself out. I'm not worried.
I'm just feeling lighthearted and bright right now. It's nice to feel that way for a bit.
I got rid of something that was overwhelmingly negative in my life and I'm much happier for it.
I'm worried about something that my brother's therapist (a psychologist) is telling him to do, which I think are ethically irresponsible, particularly given my brother's history. I'm glad he has a therapist, I think the right one would be very beneficial to him, but I find this particular behavior appalling, and irresponsible, and in conflict with other things that my brother is trying to do.
I've developed this complex relationship with my chiropractor which certainly goes beyond the professional and delves into the personal-(she's an awesome chiropractor) and I tend to like her as a person, but some of her parenting makes me uncomfortable-I've realized that this, like everything else will always be the case and I have to accept that she's doing what she feels is the best thing for her child and her family, even if it's not the same parenting style I hope to have-every child and every family is different, and while there are some near-universal things where there's a clear "Ais better than B" answers, there are so many other things in parenting that aren't. And then there's a whole boundary thing. People tell me things, and that's okay with me. It's been that way for a long time, and I think it's partly a personality thing and partly the social work thing. Whatever, right? But there are some things that, in the context of a non-professional, therapist-patient kind of relationship that I kind of feel like the timing for disclosing was a little awkward-they're certainly things to discuss with a therapist, they're certainly things to discuss with your close and intimate friends, but I'm certainly not her therapist or counselor, and I'm not exactly a close confidante either. The telling me doesn't bother me...everyone has different comfort levels about disclosure, and that's all fine, but I'm feeling at a loss for a safe place to process the fact that I now know some of these things-things. It's the kind of stuff where if I were building a client-therapist relationship, I'd have an appropriate system in place, but I'm not, and I don't...and I'm now in the strange position of someone disclosing things that are rather personal, and not really having a good place to put it. I'd call it a boundary issue, but I'm not sure it is entirely-it's stuff that I'd certainly talk about with my close friends, and if she's feeling devoid of people to talk about this stuff with, I'm probably not a bad person to talk to. It's much harder to set limits when you're not exactly sure what the guidelines for the relationship are...do I set limits as I would with a client, or do I set limits as I would with a friend, or do I just let things grow in an organic way and see what happens. It'll all work itself out. I'm not worried.
I'm just feeling lighthearted and bright right now. It's nice to feel that way for a bit.
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Date: 2008-02-20 02:55 am (UTC)As for people telling you things, I put it in the same box I do things I'd hear as a therapist. It gets that same confidentiality and if I hear things that start to worry me I suggest they find a therapist.
Lastly, the flasher? I'd have pulled out a camera and kept it by the window and the next time he did take his picture. That would have stopped him fast.
Glad you are in a god mood and I have to get off my arse and mail you the thing I have for you. It's been done a VERY long time. I'm sorry.
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Date: 2008-02-20 06:41 pm (UTC)Oh no. I hope everything works out. That can be a scary situation. I feel similar about my mom and her therapist actually.