More breastfeeding stuff. Skip it. Really.

[geminigirl]

My illustrious 68 day parenting career has presented me with the moment where I most felt incompetent today.



I mentioned the other day finding a local milk donor. She's about ten minutes from my house and Naomi and I went over for a visit and milk pick up this afternoon. Naomi was hungry and fussy, and A. the donor nursed her.

And I watched someone else nurse my baby. I know that getting the milk right from the tap is good for Naomi. And I know that it's good for the donor to make a connection with Naomi. I don't mind at all if someone else gives her a bottle. But my goodness, what a moment to feel broken and incompetent...watching someone else nurse my child.

It hurt like nothing else I can think of. And it was the right and best thing, but oh my do I feel awful.

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[bicrim.livejournal.com]

yeah. That would have killed me when I was were you are, too. As a LLL leader, we are taught not to nurse the babies of the mothers we help, not because of disease issues, but because we could make them feel incompetent with our ease, when they are struggling. We are taught to teach them to nurse instead.

If she will latch, why not nurse her yourself, with the SNS? It is a pain to learn, but it is so much better for both of you than bottles, especially emotionally.