Life=not going so well...
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entirelysonja and doing most of the rest of getting ready for baby in the house.
I was supposed to fly up to New York with Naomi for a super quick visit with my family before my sister and her boyfriend leave for Los Angeles. My Mom was supposed to fly back to Florida with us to give me a hand at home...she'd promised a while ago to help with painting Naomi's new room (we're turning our guest room into a room for Naomi and leaving the room she's currently in as is for the new baby.) I did finally get a paint color picked for the new room (Benjamin Moore 1403-French Lilac) and then everything starts breaking...
On Wednesday (Sept. 23-about ten days ago,) Cayne complains that he's got some pain on the lower right side of his belly. No tenderness, no fever, no vomiting or nausea-nothing that indicates that it's worth waking Naomi up for an ER visit...but he goes to bed early. Thursday morning, he decides to go to Urgent Care to get checked out. They do an x-ray, but find nothing, and send him on his way with a muscle relaxant and pain killer/anti-inflammatory declaring that it's a pulled muscle. While that's going on, my mother calls and says "I may have to change my trip-the closing that was suppose to be two weeks ago was postponed and they want to do it next, when I'm supposed to be in Florida." (Mom and her brothers own some commercial properties and this closing was for one that they've been trying to get rid of for a very long time.) Friday, he actually felt worse, and ended up in the emergency room. Still, no answer after an ultrasound-just a referral to a gastroenterologist (despite the ultrasound results suggesting follow up procedures.) We saw the gastrogenterologist a few days ago, were told that this is probably something related to his colon or duodenum, but there's also a 2 cm lesion on his liver (which didn't seem to be a particular cause for concern to the gastro doctor) and Cayne is scheduled for a CAT scan on Tuesday and a colonoscopy on Friday.
So we canceled my trip. And my mother's trip. The "getting ready for new baby" is just about entirely on hold.
And then little things...all kinds of little things-I'm sick right now, which doesn't help anything...it means I'm not doing as much as I can in order to get ready for baby or to finish picking up the house before Sonja visits. Naomi has been running a low grade fever for a week or so, which I'm not certain is related to teething anymore. Our babysitter for tomorrow night (and the five Monday nights after that) had to cancel on us-she got a new day job, which doesn't end until 7-too late for her to get here before we need to be elsewhere. So it's Sunday, we're scrambling to find a babysitter-our other babysitter works late afternoon/early evening, so while she's great for weekends and daytime (she'll watch Naomi later this week while I'm at the hospital waiting on Andy though so that I don't have to amuse a one and a half year old in a hospital waiting room for a couple of hours.) My car should go in for service soon, and it's likely will need a rather expensive repair. We still don't know how much we've got to pay the midwife because we're still fighting with insurance. All of my house-related projects are on hold with Andy not being well enough to do the parts that I can't. And all of the baby related stuff-pulling out and washing the newborn clothes, figuring out what we need and what we have, washing and sunning all of the newborn diapers...that's all temporarily on hold too. And some of the little things just feel so much bigger because I'm 31 weeks pregnant...
And of course, there's the whole stress about breastfeeding this time. Will it work better this time, won't it? What's the plan of action? (Different feedback from the midwife and the LC about what to do in the next few weeks to prepare and possibly to reduce the kinds of problems we had last time.) Need to start looking for donor milk soon. Need to get the personal use parts of the Lactina from the LC. At least there's the promising notion that while I'm not "leaking" I can hand express more colostrum now than I could the entire time I was pregnant with Naomi...
It will be okay. The most important parts will get done. I'm sure of it. Whatever doesn't get done, we'll live with, and it will get done after. Right now the focus is on growing a healthy baby, figuring out what's wrong with Cayne and making sure he gets well and is taken care of. We'll be okay. I just keep telling myself that.
entirelysonja and doing most of the rest of getting ready for baby in the house. I was supposed to fly up to New York with Naomi for a super quick visit with my family before my sister and her boyfriend leave for Los Angeles. My Mom was supposed to fly back to Florida with us to give me a hand at home...she'd promised a while ago to help with painting Naomi's new room (we're turning our guest room into a room for Naomi and leaving the room she's currently in as is for the new baby.) I did finally get a paint color picked for the new room (Benjamin Moore 1403-French Lilac) and then everything starts breaking...
On Wednesday (Sept. 23-about ten days ago,) Cayne complains that he's got some pain on the lower right side of his belly. No tenderness, no fever, no vomiting or nausea-nothing that indicates that it's worth waking Naomi up for an ER visit...but he goes to bed early. Thursday morning, he decides to go to Urgent Care to get checked out. They do an x-ray, but find nothing, and send him on his way with a muscle relaxant and pain killer/anti-inflammatory declaring that it's a pulled muscle. While that's going on, my mother calls and says "I may have to change my trip-the closing that was suppose to be two weeks ago was postponed and they want to do it next, when I'm supposed to be in Florida." (Mom and her brothers own some commercial properties and this closing was for one that they've been trying to get rid of for a very long time.) Friday, he actually felt worse, and ended up in the emergency room. Still, no answer after an ultrasound-just a referral to a gastroenterologist (despite the ultrasound results suggesting follow up procedures.) We saw the gastrogenterologist a few days ago, were told that this is probably something related to his colon or duodenum, but there's also a 2 cm lesion on his liver (which didn't seem to be a particular cause for concern to the gastro doctor) and Cayne is scheduled for a CAT scan on Tuesday and a colonoscopy on Friday.
So we canceled my trip. And my mother's trip. The "getting ready for new baby" is just about entirely on hold.
And then little things...all kinds of little things-I'm sick right now, which doesn't help anything...it means I'm not doing as much as I can in order to get ready for baby or to finish picking up the house before Sonja visits. Naomi has been running a low grade fever for a week or so, which I'm not certain is related to teething anymore. Our babysitter for tomorrow night (and the five Monday nights after that) had to cancel on us-she got a new day job, which doesn't end until 7-too late for her to get here before we need to be elsewhere. So it's Sunday, we're scrambling to find a babysitter-our other babysitter works late afternoon/early evening, so while she's great for weekends and daytime (she'll watch Naomi later this week while I'm at the hospital waiting on Andy though so that I don't have to amuse a one and a half year old in a hospital waiting room for a couple of hours.) My car should go in for service soon, and it's likely will need a rather expensive repair. We still don't know how much we've got to pay the midwife because we're still fighting with insurance. All of my house-related projects are on hold with Andy not being well enough to do the parts that I can't. And all of the baby related stuff-pulling out and washing the newborn clothes, figuring out what we need and what we have, washing and sunning all of the newborn diapers...that's all temporarily on hold too. And some of the little things just feel so much bigger because I'm 31 weeks pregnant...
And of course, there's the whole stress about breastfeeding this time. Will it work better this time, won't it? What's the plan of action? (Different feedback from the midwife and the LC about what to do in the next few weeks to prepare and possibly to reduce the kinds of problems we had last time.) Need to start looking for donor milk soon. Need to get the personal use parts of the Lactina from the LC. At least there's the promising notion that while I'm not "leaking" I can hand express more colostrum now than I could the entire time I was pregnant with Naomi...
It will be okay. The most important parts will get done. I'm sure of it. Whatever doesn't get done, we'll live with, and it will get done after. Right now the focus is on growing a healthy baby, figuring out what's wrong with Cayne and making sure he gets well and is taken care of. We'll be okay. I just keep telling myself that.
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Date: 2009-10-04 09:51 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2009-10-06 02:58 am (UTC)You do remember that neither of my kids had anything approximating a "room" until they were at least 2, right? Karl still doesn't have a "room." The ceiling in our diaper changing area got repaired during the week or so AFTER Erika was born. Which is my way of saying -- yes, it would be nice to have things squared away, but if it's not to be, it'll work out fine in the end.
See you Friday.
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Date: 2009-10-06 03:08 am (UTC)Sounds like a lot of stuff is weighing on you guys right now. I hope it all clears up soon.