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A. There is a next of birds near the vent into the storage room which belongs to the agency we share our floor with. For some reason, they still have a storage room off our conference room, filled with stuff I've never seen them use. And the babies are screeching. They've been screeching for about two and a half weeks. It's sort of interesting, and sort of noisy/annoying. I wish I could see the birds but the minute you open the door they stop.
B. We're up to five times in three weeks that mom has gotten on the grandchildren subject. That's a lot of pressure from her, considering how rarely it's come up in the past. It's almost every time I've talked to her in fact. And it bothers me more that she knows I want to do it and has started to nag about it-if I'd never expressed any interest I think I could understand why she'd be pestering me.
C. I'm a bad sister. My half-sister will be 40 at the end of this week, and I've only just mailed her birthday card. My birthday is next Monday and I've already gotten a card from her. My sister and I pretty much communicate with annual birthday cards, holiday cards (which are the only pictures I get of her kids, who I've never met) and the occasional e-mail.
D. I like it when my boss is wrong and I'm right about things. It serves to underscore to me the fact that she's a moron, much of the time. (Not that I need much evidence most days) Case in point: She had done HIV testing at one of the sites she's working at. She asked me to take the samples to the health department. Not because she didn't have time to go, but because she doesn't know where it is. Well, neither did I, but I asked for directions from the guy in our office who coordinates HIV testing. But then, before I left, as I was packing the samples into the plastic Biohazard bag, I checked the paperwork. It wasn't completed...so I brought it back to her. She tells me we don't have to fill it out, I tell her that I was told we did have to fill it out (it's state paperwork...we have a state grant, the samples go to a state lab...you do so have to fill it out. Duh.) She checks with the coordinator here, he tells her to fill it out, she tries again and still doesn't fill it in...and so we go through the process again. I got the samples out to the health department an hour later than I had wanted to. I suppose it's fine, they'll still go out with todays labs. But still. It's not that hard to do correctly, or even completely.
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jaketherake today amused me quite a bit. And, my other regular read For Better or for Worse is making me sad again.
A. There is a next of birds near the vent into the storage room which belongs to the agency we share our floor with. For some reason, they still have a storage room off our conference room, filled with stuff I've never seen them use. And the babies are screeching. They've been screeching for about two and a half weeks. It's sort of interesting, and sort of noisy/annoying. I wish I could see the birds but the minute you open the door they stop.
B. We're up to five times in three weeks that mom has gotten on the grandchildren subject. That's a lot of pressure from her, considering how rarely it's come up in the past. It's almost every time I've talked to her in fact. And it bothers me more that she knows I want to do it and has started to nag about it-if I'd never expressed any interest I think I could understand why she'd be pestering me.
C. I'm a bad sister. My half-sister will be 40 at the end of this week, and I've only just mailed her birthday card. My birthday is next Monday and I've already gotten a card from her. My sister and I pretty much communicate with annual birthday cards, holiday cards (which are the only pictures I get of her kids, who I've never met) and the occasional e-mail.
D. I like it when my boss is wrong and I'm right about things. It serves to underscore to me the fact that she's a moron, much of the time. (Not that I need much evidence most days) Case in point: She had done HIV testing at one of the sites she's working at. She asked me to take the samples to the health department. Not because she didn't have time to go, but because she doesn't know where it is. Well, neither did I, but I asked for directions from the guy in our office who coordinates HIV testing. But then, before I left, as I was packing the samples into the plastic Biohazard bag, I checked the paperwork. It wasn't completed...so I brought it back to her. She tells me we don't have to fill it out, I tell her that I was told we did have to fill it out (it's state paperwork...we have a state grant, the samples go to a state lab...you do so have to fill it out. Duh.) She checks with the coordinator here, he tells her to fill it out, she tries again and still doesn't fill it in...and so we go through the process again. I got the samples out to the health department an hour later than I had wanted to. I suppose it's fine, they'll still go out with todays labs. But still. It's not that hard to do correctly, or even completely.
E. The
jaketherake today amused me quite a bit. And, my other regular read For Better or for Worse is making me sad again.
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Date: 2002-05-21 10:14 am (UTC)i would say to her something along the lines of "mother, i know you want grandchildren. i want children. god willing, one of these days i will have children. however, in order to get you a grandchild right this minute, i would have to go pick up a stranger, have a one night stand, and raise the child myself. since i assume that neither of us wants that, back off."
btw, i know that you could get a better donor than that, but the object is to shut down this topic, not to communicate with her about all the fathering options that are available this week. the less vehement way to deal with this, of course, is to just stop her every time she introduces the topic and say "i don't want to discuss that now." but that can get very very old, too, and the other makes a better LJ entry ;-).
re your boss: it wouldn't be so bad if she weren't endangering people. as it is, she frightens me.
re your "other read": the link didn't work for me although i figured out where it led to.
(p.s.: you can also tell me to back off on giving you advice on how to get your mother to back off on the grandkids discussions ;-) )
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Date: 2002-05-21 11:32 am (UTC)As for my boss-I only tell the bad parts. I'm sure she's good at something, but I sometimes (often?) have a hard time seeing through the incredible amount of frustration she causes me. She's supposed to be running a site based program, but I don't see her doing it that way...a site based program would involve training at their site, working with a site coordinator and making sure that the peer educators are connected with a site-not just training a bunch of peer educators you met at a health fair some of whom go to church together and some of whom don't. I got a chance to observe the way the group she just trained interacted, and the three girls who came together from a church stayed together, and the two girls she trained who were part of another program here stayed together but they didn't interact at all. And I don't think she encouraged it.
I think somewhere in her brain, she also hasn't figured out the fact that her peer educators have to come from this state, and not DC and not Maryland.
Bottom line, I'm sure the moments of incompetence will catch up with her eventually. For now, I just try to make sure I'm covered, or that when I need to be certain of things I confirm with other, higher or more adept sources.
As for my Mom...I appreciate your advice. You've dealt with Mom's longer than I have. I did point out to her that five different times in three weeks was a lot. And that she was the one who had mentioned it all of those times. I basically said to her last night that while it's something I know I want to do, now is not the right time for me to do it, and that when it's time for it to happen it will.
I think the reason I'm so hurt by it (because that's really what it is) is that it's something I do want. But not now.
I'll admit the "find a boyfriend" part has been bugging more the last few months than it has in the past-but you knew that. Truthfully at this point, I'm not sure that I want one. And that might change, and it might not. It of course presents a different problem when dealing with grandchildren, but I can cross that bridge later.
Truthfully, right now I'd like someone around that I could go home to and curl up on when I've had a day like today. Is that too much to ask for?
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Date: 2002-05-21 02:01 pm (UTC)boss needs to be fixed, yes!
mom: the interesting thing will be to see whether she listens to you now that you've said something to her. because i know that it hurts you and that part of the pain is that you want it. it's like being repeatedly asked for something that you've already said yes to.
someone to cuddle up with sounds good--i wish that for you with all my heart.