Sun comes up it's Tuesday Morning

[geminigirl]

It's been a long time since I had a nightmare...but I had one last night. I'm fairly sure that it's related to the conversation I had with roosterbear on Sunday night, but either way, it woke me a bit after five, in a panic.

Hrm. Already frustrated with my boss this AM. She's just being a moron. I'm short on patience though, so I'm trying to keep it under control.

So, here's what I'm wondering about. I had a really cool dress on Saturday night. Simple, black wrap dress. Got lots of complements on it, etc. And on the outfit I wore today to work, I got a lot of complements. But in the back of my head I always wonder if the complements are more like "Wow, that's a great outfit. (for a fat chick)", or "You look really great today, (for a fat chick)" Obviously where the latter part is left unsaid.

I know I should just take complements kindly, when they're given...but after so many years of people being unpleasant and beating me down for it, it's hard not to wonder. Though I do always say "Thank you."

We now return you to our regularly scheduled work day.

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Being a chubby gal myself I can understand where your coming from on this one. In my experience though it's almost always true that people are honest with their compliments (nix the "for a fat chick"). I've never been a believer though that one must be thin to be beautiful. If people were telling you that you looked like a hottie, you probably did ;)

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>So, here's what I'm wondering about. I had a really cool dress on Saturday night. Simple, black wrap dress. Got lots of complements on it, etc. And on the outfit I wore today to work, I got a lot of complements. But in the back of my head I always wonder if the complements are more like "Wow, that's a great outfit. (for a fat chick)", or "You look really great today, (for a fat chick)" Obviously where the latter part is left unsaid.

I know I should just take complements kindly, when they're given...but after so many years of people being unpleasant and beating me down for it, it's hard not to wonder. Though I do always say "Thank you."

i had that tape playing in my head for a long time too, but i refuse to let it live there anymore.

yesterday i was wearing a navy blue wool suit and a white blouse that has darts so it fits me nicely. the colors look great with my pale skin, dark hair and blue eyes, if i do say so myself. at choral rehearsal, a little slip of a thing said: "you look really nice today." well you know something? she was right. i dress up really well, and i looked nice yesterday. what does the rest of that thought do except take away from the pleasure that you take from the compliment? if you look nice, then you look nice. if the world thinks that you would look nicer sans some pounds, that doesn't mean that you don't look nice now, so what's the point? don't take on the task of beating yourself up now that the world isn't handling it for you!