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geminigirlWe've spoken to the vet, who says that the large tumor is cancerous, and says there are other tumors in other teats. There's also an enlarged lymph node. Surgery would probably be traumatic for the cat, and might not get the whole tumor, or all the cancer. At best, even with surgery, it would give the cat a few months. The vet suggested that we keep the cat comfortable, and on antibiotics and when we're ready, put her down.
This is sort of what I expected, but not the worst news possible, which would have either been "put her down ASAP" or "Surgery is the best treatment." Why the second? Because it would be even more painful than putting her down to be told that surgery was the best treatment and not being able to afford it-to know that it could be fixed but that it was just out of my reach to do that for the cat.
What we'll probably do is keep the cat on antibiotics and comfortable until some time shortly after the wedding, at which point we'll let her go. Emotionally, it's probably the best thing for us, and as long as she's not actively suffering, it's okay with her. And as sad as I am, I worry the most about Beta. Cayne and I have the intellectal capacity to understand what's going on. But how do you explain to a furry orange lump who doesn't understand English, who loves Oblivion as much as we do that she's sick and has to go away? Beta shouldn't be an only cat either.
The comfort in this is that I know that Oblivion has had a loving home for the last four years with me, that she's been well cared for, and that I'm making this decision out of love and compassion, and that it's what's best for her. Even if it hurts a lot.
This is sort of what I expected, but not the worst news possible, which would have either been "put her down ASAP" or "Surgery is the best treatment." Why the second? Because it would be even more painful than putting her down to be told that surgery was the best treatment and not being able to afford it-to know that it could be fixed but that it was just out of my reach to do that for the cat.
What we'll probably do is keep the cat on antibiotics and comfortable until some time shortly after the wedding, at which point we'll let her go. Emotionally, it's probably the best thing for us, and as long as she's not actively suffering, it's okay with her. And as sad as I am, I worry the most about Beta. Cayne and I have the intellectal capacity to understand what's going on. But how do you explain to a furry orange lump who doesn't understand English, who loves Oblivion as much as we do that she's sick and has to go away? Beta shouldn't be an only cat either.
The comfort in this is that I know that Oblivion has had a loving home for the last four years with me, that she's been well cared for, and that I'm making this decision out of love and compassion, and that it's what's best for her. Even if it hurts a lot.
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Date: 2005-05-19 11:57 pm (UTC)I'm glad you get more time with her, and that she's not suffering.
*hugs*
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Date: 2005-05-20 12:38 am (UTC)I think Beta will be ok. Maybe you can help him by getting him a kitten to care for? Or another mommacat?
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Date: 2005-05-20 01:14 am (UTC)too sad.
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Date: 2005-05-20 02:04 am (UTC)*hugs*
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Date: 2005-05-20 02:35 am (UTC)We have a dog, who is probably still alive because I was working at a vet when he had his pelvis broken.
Happily it was something easy to fix (athletic tape and Bitter Apple), but the cost, even of that, would have been outside our budget at the time.
I was fortunate enough to get credit, and to be charged only costs.
Even so it was something like $500 (most of which was kennelling fees).
Had he needed surgery it would have to have been done at another clinic, and the minimum would have been $1,500.
He's sleeping under a tree right now.
TK
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Date: 2005-05-20 03:31 am (UTC)And when the time is right for you and Cayne I think Beta will enjoy whatever sister or brother comes into her life. Other pets adjust, sometimes better than we do.
*BIG HUGS*
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