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As I was cutting up some chicken to go in a stir fry for Cayne's lunch, I had Oprah on the TV. She's interviewing author Terry McMillian (of the semi-autobiographical How Stella Got her Groove Back and Waiting to Exhale and others) and her ex-husband, Johnathan Plummer, who revealed to Terry that he was gay.

During the early part of the program, Oprah was discussing with Terry McMillan how Johnathan revealed his sexual orientation to Oprah, and how, at the time he revealed to her that he is gay he also said that he'd never been intimate with a man. Terry McMillian responded with, "That's like saying you're an alcoholic without ever having had a drink."

It's a frequent refrain, "How can you know you're lesbian/gay/bisexual if you've never had sex with a MOTAS¹?

So, how did you know about your own sexuality...gay, lesbian, bisexual, straight, whatever label you choose to apply? Before or after you started having sex? Did you ever question it? How do you feel about what Terry McMillian said to Johnathan-do you think people can know before they try it?

(Anon posting on, IP logging off, so go ahead an answer anonymously if you like-also, feel free to link to this post and encourage other people to answer, and mactavish I can re-post it Friday to bisexual as a QOTW if you like.)

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I don't ascribe to the binary or trinary or whatever of sexuality. I think I'm attracted to people. I've only been in relationships with men. I would be open to a relationship with a woman, but don't think that other people in my life (friends, somewhat; family in particular) would be accepting of that at all. At this point, I haven't met a woman I'd like to date, so the issue hasn't come into play. I'm rather newly single now, though, so I'm slowly adjusting myself to the idea that it will come up sooner or later, and be an ugly scene when it does.

I guess I didn't answer your question. I've known I'm bisexual since far before I began having sex. I just haven't been in a same-sex relationship yet.