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[geminigirl]

So, we all know we're having issues here. Don't need to get into that. What I'm trying to figure out is how I know when to stop. I feel kind of guilty that I'm thinking about stopping when I have people pumping for me, and I'd like her to get some breastmilk for another four or so months-until she's about six months old, and I don't know how long other people are willing or able to keep pumping for her.

But I also know it's not financially nor emotionally feasible to continue the crazy supplements/medication/pumping/SNS. I know that it's more important than any breast milk that I develop a positive relationship with Naomi about eating and food and feeding, because that will carry on well beyond this stage of her life.

I'm trying to figure out when it's okay to stop. When it would be okay not only for me, but for the people who are kind and thoughtful enough to pump for her so she gets more breastmilk than the few ounces a day she gets from me. I don't know how long my milk will last-this may be entirely inconsequential.

So if you were pumping for someone else in addition to feeding your own baby, not a full supply but five or so ounces a day, what would you say about stopping to the Mom who was getting your milk? Would you be okay with it if she stopped trying? When would that become okay?

Comments

[aelf.livejournal.com]

I would absolutely be ok with it. I would be giving you milk because I had extra, or the ability to produce extra, you know?

It would become ok with me as soon as the baby was born.

I would be giving you milk because I wanted your daughter to have the best possible food. Of course I'd also want her to have the best possible mom. And if having the best possible mom means letting mom get away from living by the pump or clock? I'd support it.

I'd be surprised if a donor mom would be anything but supportive of you taking care of yourself and your baby.

[geminigirl]

Thanks. I need this kind of feedback cause all I can see is the huge "I'm a failure" side of things.

[katishna.livejournal.com]

Ditto, ditto, ditto. Couldn't have said it any better.